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“Don’t Look Back!”

“But Lot’s wife, behind him, looked back, and she became a pillar of salt.”

(Genesis 19:26 The Holy Bible, English Standard Version)

https://accordance.bible/link/read/ESVS#Gen._19:26.

“Remember Lot’s wife.”  (Luke 17:32, my translation.  Jesus is warning his disciples about the difficulties in their future, and Jesus is encouraging them to persevere.)

Leon Morris comments as follows on Luke 17:32:

Lot’s wife came as close to deliverance without achieving it as was possible. She was brought right out of the doomed city and set on the way to safety. But she looked back and lingered, evidently in longing for the delights she was leaving behind. In the process she was caught up in the destruction that overtook Sodom and she perished with the city (Gen. 19:26).[1]

I have always thought along these lines.  Lot’s wife was looking back because of her longing for “the good times” in the past.  Perhaps that was indeed her motivation.  (Looking back is often called “nostalgia.”  Perhaps we should label it instead “sin” or “stupidity” or something else?)

However, this interpretation of Mrs. Lot’s motivation ignores one crucial aspect of the original story contained in Genesis 19, as well as one crucial aspect of Jesus’ words themselves.  We are not told, either in Genesis 19 or in Luke 17:32, Lot’s wife’s motivation.  Imputing motives is not wise, when we are doing so in our everyday, contemporary lives.  Perhaps it is not a good idea in our biblical interpretation either.

Furthermore, in Genesis 19:17, when the angel warned Lot, his wife, and their daughters not to look back, the angel did not speak of motivation.  The command is very specific: Don’t look back! No proviso about motivation at all!

So, maybe Lot’s wife looked back with regret for the time she had spent there.  Or perhaps she was looking back with contempt toward the cities and their inhabitants.

Now, Lot’s wife speaks to me, because she speaks of me.  I have struggled with nostalgia (and also with regret) since I was just a boy.  The problem hasn’t gotten better with time.

So, what is wrong with looking back?  Not a thing!  Except that it prevents me from focusing on God and on the things that I need to be doing right now.  Then there is the fact that an angel in the Old Testament, and Jesus in the New, who say, “Don’t look back!” and “Remember Lot’s wife!”

Don Henley has a song called “The Boys of Summer.”  (Listen to a more contemplative version of the song, as part of a Howard Stern Show at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hoxEcD4PCco, accessed 01-02-2020.)  In this song, Henley says, “Don’t look back!  You can never look back.”

Maybe you can look back.  Certainly, I can.  The question is should you—should I—look back?  I could, but I think I’ll make a different decision. This year I am choosing to look forward, upward, and at . . ., and not so much back!


[1]Leon Morris, Luke: An Introduction and Commentary, TNTC 3; IVP/Accordance electronic ed. (Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press, 1988), 278.

https://accordance.bible/link/read/Tyndale_Commentary#44639

“NAKED TO THE NOW”

 Today, by God’s grace, I will choose to live in the NOW.  I will enjoy the NOW as much as is possible, but endure whatever pain or discomfort there is in the NOW when necessary.  (My personal 12-step affirmation for July 1, 2017.)

It [i.e., prayer] offers itself naked to the now . . . .”  (Richard Rohr, meditation for June 30, 2017.)

I had crafted and sent my personal, 12-step affirmation to my sponsor before I read Rohr’s meditation for June 30.  I was quite struck by his emphasis on “the now,” especially in light of my affirmation.

Being naked is not an easy thing to be.  I have certainly never been comfortable being “naked to the now.”  I remember being nostalgic when I was nine years old.

And of course, the future is a huge distraction.  I used to wonder if I would be a success in the future?  I have no clue about that.  (On second thought, maybe I do have a clue: My wife said last night that she loved me more than ever.  How can I possibly be anything but a success, when my lady says she loves me more than ever?)

We sometimes speak of someone “facing an uncertain future.”  My question is, who doesn’t face an uncertain future?

But as painful as my own past choices and their consequences are, and as uncertain as the future is, I still try to avoid the now.

Why?

Perhaps I need to figure that out.

So, in the now, I am writing this post, sipping coffee that is swiftly getting cold, and watching the trees bending in occasional breezes.  The sky looks like rain.  My wife and I are going for a day trip, and I need to fix us some oatmeal.  What’s wrong with any of that?

Dear readers, I hope you can either endure your now or enjoy it.  I wish you an enjoyable and endurable NOW!

 

“Living in the moment or for the moment?”

Prepositions are little words that matter a lot.

For example, think of two statements that sound almost identical:

“I’m living in the moment.”

“I’m living for the moment.”

The same difference?  I don’t think so!

Living in the moment is a good thing.  In fact, when else can any of us really live?  Living in the past is another word for nostalgia or regret.  However, it can scarcely be said to be really living.

Living in the future is either fantasy or anxiety.  Again, neither of these is truly living.

The present is where it is at.  This does not apply only to an enjoyable present.  Often, the present is not enjoyable.  To pretend otherwise is not wise.

Still, to attempt to live somewhere other than where I am at any given moment is not simply unwise; it is impossible.  Being at some time that isn’t present is like being some where you’re not.

So much for the important preposition “in!”  What about “for?”

Living for the moment is another matter altogether.

This philosophy of life is encapsulated in a saying from the 1960s: “If it feels good, do it!”  I heard a speaker once say, that whenever he saw that saying on a bumper sticker, he always wanted to rear-end the car.  When the driver asked, “Why did you do that?!?” the speaker was going to say, “I just always thought it would feel good!”  I am assuming that the speaker never followed through on this fantasy.

I have often tried this approach, and it has never worked out well for me.  Perhaps this is not true of everyone, but for me, every time I’ve tried it, I have regretted it (or at least the outcome).  I’ve said the first thing that came to mind, and lost a friend, or hurt my wife.  I’ve eaten impulsively, and gained weight—as recently as yesterday!  You get the picture.

Of course, this “live-for-the-moment” approach would work very well, if in fact what felt good for the moment was truly good.  However, I do not think that feeling good can be identified with what is good.  In fact, they are frequently (though not always) sworn enemies.

I’m sure that some of my readers are saying to themselves, “Well, the good sounds pretty dismal.  I don’t think I’m interested.”  So, let me come in with a good word for the truly good.

I believe that the truly good feels good in the long term.  However, it simply does not feel good in the short term.

More about this in tomorrow’s post!

 

 

 

“WHEN SLAVERY LOOKS PRETTY GOOD”

 

“Isn’t it enough that you brought us out of Egypt, a land flowing with milk and honey, to kill us here in this wilderness . . . ?”  (Numbers 16:12)

 

Sometimes, slavery looks pretty good.

The Bible tells about how God freed the people of Israel from bondage in Egypt (Exodus through Deuteronomy).  And God’s plan was not simply to free Israel from something.  God was also planning to bring Israel to something: their own land, a land that is frequently portrayed as “flowing with milk and honey.”

However, like all of us, the Israelites had a problem: themselves.  They could be thankful for short bursts, but for long periods, they complained.  In fact, as has often been noted, the most popular outdoor sport of the Israelites during their journey from Egypt to Israel was complaining.

What did they complain about?  It would be easier to say what they didn’t complain about.  They complained about food—no food, the same food day after day, no meat.  They complained about water—or, rather, the lack of water.  They complained about the desert they were in.  They complained about the “fact” (??) that they were not able to conquer the land that God had given them.  (Their penalty for this complaint was that they were not able to conquer the land that God had given them.)  They complained about their leadership.

Now, before we go all smug and judgmental about this bunch of complaining Israelites, we should perhaps take a look in the mirror.  Let’s face the truth on this Monday morning: Complaining is an equal-opportunity employer.  We are all of us complainers.  Paul warns believers of this in 1 Corinthians 10:1-13, referring to the stories of complaining (and other sins) Israel committed in the wilderness.  Paul also warns us that such complaining and other sins are common temptations that all people face (verse 13).  When someone asks me how I am, I sometimes reply, “Can’t complain!”  However, I can complain and sometimes I do.

So, in Numbers 16, some of the Israelites are complaining that Moses has not brought them into “a land flowing with milk and honey” (verse 13).  In fact, the complainers refer to Egypt as “a land flowing with milk and honey” (verse 12).

Say what!

Wasn’t Egypt where they were slaves?  Wasn’t Egypt where they felt the whip of the taskmasters?  Wasn’t Egypt where they had to throw their male babies into the Nile River to feed the crocodiles?  Wasn’t Egypt where they had cried out to God for deliverance from Egypt and all it stood for?

Well, yes.  But now that the Israelites were in the wilderness and not yet in their own land, Egypt looked pretty good.  Will Rodgers was a funny guy, but he wove a lot of truth into his humor too.  For example, he said, “We are always yapping about the ‘Good Old Days’ and how we look back and enjoy it, but I tell you there is a lot of hooey to it. There is a whole lot of all our past lives that wasn’t so hot.”

So, how about you and me?  How did you and I used to be enslaved?  How do we remember said slavery?  Perhaps we complain because the past seems better than our present.  (Notice the operative word in the preceding sentence: “seems.”)

However, maybe it’s the other way around.  Maybe past slavery seems better because we’re complaining.  Maybe if we practiced the fine art of gratitude right here and right now, we would discover a more realistic attitude toward our past, our future, and (most importantly) our present situation.

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