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MALACHI: THE PEOPLE’S QUESTIONS AND STATEMENTS ABOUT GOD

The Book of Malachi is the last book in the Old Testament for Christians. For Jews, the book closes out the prophets. It is one of the most neglected books in the Bible. There are many reasons for this, I suppose. It is not a long book (only 54 verses). While this might recommend it to some of us, others might say, “Oh well, it’s short. Why bother?” Malachi is not as dramatic as many of the prophets. While many of the prophets are fireworks, Malachi comes across as something of a damp squib. There is no narrative in the book, no story. There are no miracles.

However, I am coming to love the book more and more. For one thing, I am coming to value its dialogical nature. Malachi is a conversation, a conversation between God and humans, with Malachi representing God, but also giving voice to what God’s people are saying—or at least what God’s people are thinking.

But even though I am coming to love Malachi, I still don’t like it. Here’s why: Malachi is incredibly meddlesome. The prophet meddles with people’s money, marriages, motivations, and mirages. That last part is not merely chosen for the sake of alliteration. The people had this mirage (this fantasy, if you prefer) that they were being ill-treated by their God. They were alive enough to complain, but they thought they had it really bad. Here are a couple of examples of the back-and-forth between God (through the prophet Malachi) and the people:

“I have loved you,” says the LORD. But you say, “How have you loved us?” (Mal. 1:2)

Mal. 1:6 ¶ “A son honors his father, and a servant his master. If then I am a father, where is my honor? And if I am a master, where is my fear? says the LORD of hosts to you, O priests, who despise my name. But you say, ‘How have we despised your name?’

Mal. 1:7 By offering polluted food upon my altar. But you say, ‘How have we polluted you?’ By saying that the LORD’S table may be despised.”

Now it must be acknowledged that life in Judea during the time of Malachi’s prophecy was no box of chocolates. Some of the people had returned from the Babylonian exile after the Persians conquered the Babylonians. However, Judah had no king. They were a small, minor part of one province of the vast Persian Empire. The temple had been rebuilt, but it was tiny and drab compared to the temple built by Solomon. No, life was not easy.

But they were alive and did have a temple. They had some money. In fact, they had enough money to decide whether to give some for the upkeep of the temple and the sustenance of the priests. Yet many of the people and the priests were chronically dissatisfied. They had become a bunch of whiny malcontents who blamed someone else—even God—for all their real and imagined woes. Of course, nothing was the result of their own bad choices. They were being victimized by their own feeling of being victimized.

Does this sound more than a bit familiar? Does it sound a bit like America right now? It does to me! A demonic spirit of grievance has gripped our nation. We play the victim, even though many of us have incredible resources.

I was standing in a long line waiting to go into a very nice restaurant in Sarasota. A man whom I did not know was complaining about inflation and blaming it all on President Biden. I don’t always agree with President Biden either. However, here were these two old guys standing in a long line, about to make our own contribution to inflation with our consumer spending. And what were we doing? Complaining about inflation!

I wonder what Malachi would say to us. Would he change much? I doubt it. He would say, “You think you have it hard? You don’t even know what having it hard would look like.”

God and God’s grace doesn’t make things easy. God and God’s grace does make things possible. God and God’s grace can help us to praise God and do the next right thing, even when things aren’t how we would like to have them.

“Refraining from Complaining”

“From Mount Hor they set out by the way to the Red Sea, to go around the land of Edom. And the people became impatient on the way. 5 And the people spoke against God and against Moses, “Why have you brought us up out of Egypt to die in the wilderness? For there is no food and no water, and we loathe this worthless food.” 6 Then the LORD sent fiery serpents among the people, and they bit the people, so that many people of Israel died. 7 And the people came to Moses and said, “We have sinned, for we have spoken against the LORD and against you. Pray to the LORD, that he take away the serpents from us.” So Moses prayed for the people. 8 And the LORD said to Moses, “Make a fiery serpent and set it on a pole, and everyone who is bitten, when he sees it, shall live.” 9 So Moses made a bronze serpent and set it on a pole. And if a serpent bit anyone, he would look at the bronze serpent and live.” (Numbers 31:4-10, English Standard Version)

“Everybody complains about the weather, but nobody is doing anything about it.” (A common saying.)

“Can’t complain, but sometimes I do.” (Another common saying, and possibly part of the lyrics to a song I can’t quite recall.)

My affirmation for today is this: “Today, by God’s grace, I am choosing to refrain from  complaining about anything or anyone.

I started to add the words, “It is not going to be easy.” However, I caught myself before I did so. It occurred to me that I was about to complain about how hard it was not to complain. Complaining about my tendency to complain is part of the complaining loop.

I just read a bit about the positive aspects of complaining in a prestigious psychological journal. However, even in this article, the author acknowledged the many negative aspects of complaining.

The truth is that complaining can even harm us physically. Apparently, complaining releases cortisol into our system, and cortisol triggers stress. So, you may think that you’re decreasing your stress by complaining, but you’re not; you are actually increasing it.

None of us likes to be around a person who complains a lot. Guess what! If you are the complainer, you are probably around yourself a lot. But, like body odor, we can’t smell the stench of our own complaints.

So, in the midst of writing this post, my sponsor (to whom I send my report and daily affirmation) responded, “What do you think about _____________?” The blank wasn’t a blank. I added the blank. Let it suffice that there was a name of a person whom I do not care for. Suddenly, I was confronted with my tendency to complain about this person.

My reply to my sponsor was as follows, again with blank where a name would be.

“I am trying to use _____________’s frequent attitudes, words, and behavior to give me some insights into myself during my own not-so-good times.”

Perhaps this gives me some notion of how to use my own grinchy tendency in a healthy fashion. I can use the things and people that I am inclined to complain about to give me a doorway to work on some things that need to be changed in me.

And a final thought: For me, as a person who says he believes in a good God who supplies everything I need, complaining is also a practical form of atheism. Complaining that I don’t have enough time, money, prestige, or anything else is a practical denial of what I am only theoretically believing.

And then there are also the snakes.

“WATER OUTAGE AND GRATITUDE”

A couple of weeks ago, we experienced a water main break near our house.  The water was off for several hours.  I decided to go up to where the men were working.  No, I wasn’t going up to ask how long the water be off.  I went up to thank them for coming out on a Saturday morning to work on the broken pipe and to thank them for keeping the aging pipes working most of the time.  They seemed very touched by my gratitude.

I suspect that the utility workers had been the victims of a trap that I frequently fall into.  Too often, I take things for granted when they work, and complain loudly when they don’t.  I don’t like that about myself, but there it is.  I think I’m doing better than I used to concerning this, but I am still very much a work in progress.

I grew up without running water.  Sometimes we ran for the water, but more often we moseyed.  So, I really appreciate having running water most of the time.

Both of our presidential candidates talked about infrastructure, and it is an important topic.  Our fathers, grandfathers, and great grandfathers laid the pipes that we use today.  We should be grateful to them and for them.  And we should be grateful for the men and women who now try to keep the pipes more or less serviceable.  And, maybe—just maybe—we should be willing to shell out some money for some major infrastructure projects ourselves.

Perhaps, however, there is another kind of infrastructure that needs some maintenance: the utility known as “gratitude.”  Perhaps gratitude is a primary means of God conveying God’s blessings to us.  It isn’t so much that God only blesses those who are grateful.  The truth is that God is good to everyone and everything God has made.  “The LORD is good to everyone. He showers compassion on all his creation” (Psalm 145:9, New Living Translation).

Rather, it is the case that only those who are grateful realize that God has blessed them.  An ungrateful attitude very quickly becomes a practical form of atheism.  In discussing the sinfulness of humankind, Paul wrote, “Yes, they knew God, but they wouldn’t worship him as God or even give him thanks. And they began to think up foolish ideas of what God was like. As a result, their minds became dark and confused” (Romans 1:21, New Living Translation).

When I fail to be grateful, I sabotage the pipe through which God’s goodness pours.  Of course, once I’ve done that, I am free to complain as much as I would like.  However, God is not the problem.

How is your gratitude infrastructure?

“WHEN SLAVERY LOOKS PRETTY GOOD”

 

“Isn’t it enough that you brought us out of Egypt, a land flowing with milk and honey, to kill us here in this wilderness . . . ?”  (Numbers 16:12)

 

Sometimes, slavery looks pretty good.

The Bible tells about how God freed the people of Israel from bondage in Egypt (Exodus through Deuteronomy).  And God’s plan was not simply to free Israel from something.  God was also planning to bring Israel to something: their own land, a land that is frequently portrayed as “flowing with milk and honey.”

However, like all of us, the Israelites had a problem: themselves.  They could be thankful for short bursts, but for long periods, they complained.  In fact, as has often been noted, the most popular outdoor sport of the Israelites during their journey from Egypt to Israel was complaining.

What did they complain about?  It would be easier to say what they didn’t complain about.  They complained about food—no food, the same food day after day, no meat.  They complained about water—or, rather, the lack of water.  They complained about the desert they were in.  They complained about the “fact” (??) that they were not able to conquer the land that God had given them.  (Their penalty for this complaint was that they were not able to conquer the land that God had given them.)  They complained about their leadership.

Now, before we go all smug and judgmental about this bunch of complaining Israelites, we should perhaps take a look in the mirror.  Let’s face the truth on this Monday morning: Complaining is an equal-opportunity employer.  We are all of us complainers.  Paul warns believers of this in 1 Corinthians 10:1-13, referring to the stories of complaining (and other sins) Israel committed in the wilderness.  Paul also warns us that such complaining and other sins are common temptations that all people face (verse 13).  When someone asks me how I am, I sometimes reply, “Can’t complain!”  However, I can complain and sometimes I do.

So, in Numbers 16, some of the Israelites are complaining that Moses has not brought them into “a land flowing with milk and honey” (verse 13).  In fact, the complainers refer to Egypt as “a land flowing with milk and honey” (verse 12).

Say what!

Wasn’t Egypt where they were slaves?  Wasn’t Egypt where they felt the whip of the taskmasters?  Wasn’t Egypt where they had to throw their male babies into the Nile River to feed the crocodiles?  Wasn’t Egypt where they had cried out to God for deliverance from Egypt and all it stood for?

Well, yes.  But now that the Israelites were in the wilderness and not yet in their own land, Egypt looked pretty good.  Will Rodgers was a funny guy, but he wove a lot of truth into his humor too.  For example, he said, “We are always yapping about the ‘Good Old Days’ and how we look back and enjoy it, but I tell you there is a lot of hooey to it. There is a whole lot of all our past lives that wasn’t so hot.”

So, how about you and me?  How did you and I used to be enslaved?  How do we remember said slavery?  Perhaps we complain because the past seems better than our present.  (Notice the operative word in the preceding sentence: “seems.”)

However, maybe it’s the other way around.  Maybe past slavery seems better because we’re complaining.  Maybe if we practiced the fine art of gratitude right here and right now, we would discover a more realistic attitude toward our past, our future, and (most importantly) our present situation.

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