Monthly Archives: June 2020

“Sisters of Jesus”

“While he was still speaking to the people, behold, his mother and his brothers stood outside, asking to speak to him.

But he replied to the man who told him, ‘Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?’

And stretching out his hand toward his disciples, he said, ‘Here are my mother and my brothers!

For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.’” (Matthew 12:46-50, English Standard Version)

“Jesus cares about relationships. In this Gospel passage he indicates that his family has room for all who do the will of God. Listening to God and acting on what we hear makes us not just friends of Jesus, but family. Not all members of a family see eye to eye on everything, but they all share a common bond. In Jesus’ family, the common bond is God. When our focus is on doing the will of God, we know that we are walking in the right direction.” (https://www.loyolapress.com/retreats/doing-gods-will-start-retreat/)

In many ways, this is an interesting passage from the Gospel of Matthew. But I noticed something the other day that I had never noticed before. The passage does not mention “sisters” at all until Jesus’ last statement. “For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.” (vs. 50) And, of course, vs. 49 says that, as Jesus was saying this, he stretched out his hands “to his disciples.”

Now, this might not be worthy of comment except for one thing: In ancient Judah, women were not disciples. And yet, Jesus explicitly included women as being his disciples. In fact, one rabbinic saying says, “He who teaches Torah to a woman is like one who casts pearls before swine.”

This may well explain why Martha was so upset that Mary had left her to do all the cooking and cleaning (Luke 10:38-42). It may not just have been about Martha feeling as if she was doing all the work. Mary was “sitting at the feet of Jesus” for crying out loud! That is what disciples do! Who did Mary think she was?!

It is also worth noting that in the encounter with the Samaritan woman at the well (John 4:1-42), when the disciples (the male disciples) come back to Jesus after going away to procure some food, they were amazed that Jesus was talking with a woman (vs. 27). Men, especially holy men who were rabbis, were generally not supposed to talk with women.

We live in a day and in a country that prides itself on its openness to everyone. At least, that used to be the case. I am not so sure that we were ever all that good at inclusiveness. I am virtually certain that we are not good at it now. Apparently, about two-thousand years ago, Jesus did include women. In this way, as in many others, Jesus was way ahead of his time. Indeed, Jesus is timeless, as well as always timely.

“A Path Called Today”

Today, by God’s grace, I am walking a path called “Today.” I don’t know what will happen on this path. But I do know a few things:

  • There will be beauty and joy. Indeed, there already are beauty and joy, and it is still very early in the day.
  • There are wonderful companions on the path—God, my wife, my little dog, my sponsors, other 12-step friends, and many others.
  • There will be tasks to do.
  • There may be problems and/or sorrows.
  • There will be delightful vistas to see.
  • I will need to keep walking. Paths, like Nancy Sinatra’s boots, are made for walkin’!
  • There will be benches along the path, so that I can sit and rest a while.

“What Forgiveness Can Do”

“Forgiveness can save a relationship. God’s forgiveness can save the world.” (My wife)

Forgiveness is essential for any relationship. People say and do hurtful things. If you’re people, this applies to you. Me too. The closer the relationship, the higher the number of hurts. More importantly, the hurts go much deeper when we are in a close relationship. Without forgiveness, no relationship can last for more than a few years. (I originally wrote “a few days,” but decided that was too pessimistic.)

I believe that God wants a relationship with the entire world. Therefore—at least with humans—God had to forgive, if God was to have a relationship with humankind. Or, at least, God chose to forgive.

This morning, as I was doing my morning run, I suddenly found myself able to forgive someone who had harmed me in the past. It was a wonderful moment. I was able to run a lot lighter and faster after that.

Ironically, though not surprisingly, my pastor preached on forgiveness this morning. It was an excellent sermon with many wonderful insights. I especially appreciated his reminder that to forgive someone else is to give yourself the gift of freedom. Yes!

Too often, I focus on the wrongs that others have done to me. At other times, I grovel in the guilt of the times that I have hurt others. Neither approach honors the God who is a God of forgiveness.

“The Wagon Ran Over Me!”

“Do not be deceived; God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.” (Galatians 6:7, New International Version)

In a recent twelve-step meeting, someone proposed the discussion topic “getting back on the wagon.” This is a frequent topic. We addicts are always prone to messing up. Even those of us who are doing well appreciate the reminder of what happens if we stop doing well.

One fellow in the group said, “When I fell off the wagon, the wagon ran over me!” That is another wonderful reason for staying on the wagon. It is difficult for the wagon to run over you if you’re staying on it.

There are consequences for doing the next wrong thing. Sometimes, some of the consequences take a while to arrive. But the truth is this: At the moment I do the wrong thing, I am immediately living with someone I don’t want to be—myself. The wagon has already rolled over me.

I think I’ll stay on the wagon!

“Christianity—Easy and Hard”

Is the Christian faith easy or hard? The answer, I think, is a resounding “Yes!” I was listening to an Andy Stanley message the other day, and he made two excellent points about this matter. His basic point was that becoming a Christian is easy, but becoming a Jesus-follower is not.

According to the standard understanding of the Christian faith (at least among conservative Protestants and many other Christians) Jesus died on the cross for our sins. We could not pay the price for our sins, so we were doomed to die, and go to hell. We were already living in the suburbs of hell. Therefore, God sent his Son in human form to die for us, taking our sins and our punishment upon himself.

I no longer identify myself as a “conservative” or an “evangelical,” due to some of the political and economical ideas that conservatives and evangelicals seem to be embracing these days. However, I still believe in the basic statements I just wrote down in my second paragraph. I do believe that Jesus was God with skin on, and not just a great teacher or prophet, or example, even though Jesus was certainly those things too. I believe that Jesus died for all the sins of all of us, and that, if we trust him, we are saved. So, Andy Stanley is right: Becoming a Christian is easy.

Or is it? Trusting someone else is actually more difficult than it sounds. Any of us who are over the age of three years have probably experienced at least one serious betrayal in our lives. At least one, and probably many more. Trusting anyone or anything is not as easy as it sounds. If we’re honest with ourselves, we have probably betrayed ourselves more than once, too. (Before you deny this, think of the last time you said to yourself, “This time, I am really going to stick with this diet and exercise plan!”)

Still, Andy makes a valid point. In theory at least, becoming a Christian is (or should be) easy.

But then, there is that second part: becoming a Jesus-follower. I still am very much a beginner at that part of the Christian faith. And it is not easy. On the other hand, if Jesus died on the cross for the sins of humankind, and if Jesus told his disciples that they had to take up their own crosses and follow him, then what right do I have to expect following Jesus to be easy? None.

However, there are three things that give me some hope in this difficult matter of becoming a Jesus-follower. These three do not make following Jesus easy, but they do make it slightly less daunting.

First, the Jesus-way is a good way. Even people who don’t believe that Jesus was God in the flesh generally think that he was a good man and lived in a loving way. If so, then it might be a good idea to imitate him.

Second, the Jesus-way leads to a good end. Now, you may be inclined to say, “Ending up on a cross and in a tomb at age thirty-three doesn’t sound like a good end to me!” I have a one-word rebuttal: Resurrection! The early disciples—and the not-so-early disciples—claimed that, much to their shock, Jesus came out of the tomb. Now, you can believe that the disciples were and are lying. I used to believe that myself. Or, at least, I believed that they were mistaken or engaging in wishful thinking. But if it’s true, then the final destination for Jesus was not the cross. If we follow Jesus, the cross isn’t our final destination either. The only question is whether the resurrection really happened or not. I believe that it did, but I realize that it takes some believing.

The third thing that gives me some hope in becoming a Jesus-follower, is that I have some wonderful companions. There are lots of good folks who accompany me on my journey. Some are atheists, some are Jewish, some are search-me-ists. These folks, who make no pretense of following Jesus, nevertheless encourage me in my own faith journey. Many of them are my fellow-addicts. Some are even Jesus followers. One of my most cherished companions on the following-Jesus path is my wife. (No, she is not an addict, though I think she is fond of me. Not addicted; just fond.)

And then, there is Jesus himself. Not super-often, but occasionally, I sense his presence withme, even as I try to follow him. And the fact that I don’t experience his presence more often and more deeply is probably my own fault. I suppose that if I followed more closely, I would experience his companionship more profoundly.

So, in the final analysis, I think that becoming a Jesus-follower isn’t necessarily the easiest thing in the world, just the best thing.

“Get Up and Get On with Your Life”

“Peter heals in the name of Jesus and commands the man he healed to get up and get on with his life. It is Jesus who heals us. Through his grace we, like Peter, are able to bring the comfort and healing power of Jesus to others. We are at one and the same time both the one healed and the one who brings about healing.” (“3-Minute Retreat,” from Loyola Publishing, June 24, 2020)

I was paralyzed from the waist down for a few months when I was in the fifth grade. A bad fall on the ice led (apparently) to a badly pinched nerve. Thanks to a chiropractor, time, and God, I was able to walk and run again. It was scary.

Today’s “3-Minute Retreat” devotional was based on the story (in Acts 9) about man who had been paralyzed for eight years.

“Peter went off on a mission to visit all the churches. In the course of his travels he arrived in Lydda and met with the believers there. He came across a man—his name was Aeneas—who had been in bed eight years paralyzed. Peter said, “Aeneas, Jesus Christ heals you. Get up and make your bed!” And he did it—jumped right out of bed. Everybody who lived in Lydda and Sharon saw him walking around and woke up to the fact that God was alive and active among them.”  (Acts 9:32-35, The Message)

I liked the way today’s retreat master for Loyola put it: “Peter heals in the name of Jesus and commands the man he healed to get up and get on with his life.”

Some of us are paralyzed, but not in our body. No, it is much more serious than that. We are paralyzed by fear, by lust, by greed, by any number of paralyzing agents in our life.

And then, along comes Jesus and says, perhaps through another person like Peter, sometimes very directly, “Get up and get on with your life!” Perhaps Jesus says this to us, even to get us out of bed in the morning.

And so, in the name of Jesus, I say unto thee, “Get up and get on with your life!”

“Brimming with Wealth and Generosity”

“Hallelujah!

Blessed man, blessed woman, who fear God,

Who cherish and relish his commandments,

Their children robust on the earth,

And the homes of the upright—how blessed!

Their houses brim with wealth

And a generosity that never runs dry.

Sunrise breaks through the darkness for good people—

God’s grace and mercy and justice!

The good person is generous and lends lavishly;

No shuffling or stumbling around for this one,

But a sterling and solid and lasting reputation.

Unfazed by rumor and gossip,

Heart ready, trusting in God,

Spirit firm, unperturbed,

Ever blessed, relaxed among enemies,

They lavish gifts on the poor—

A generosity that goes on, and on, and on.

An honored life! A beautiful life!

Someone wicked takes one look and rages,

Blusters away but ends up speechless.

There’s nothing to the dreams of the wicked. Nothing.” (Psalm 112, The Message)

There are a lot of good things said about the person who knows God here. They fear and trust God. They cherish his commandments. They are “unfazed by gossip and rumor.”

But I think that the thing that impresses me the most is the generosity of the righteous. That seems to be what the psalmist keys in on as well. Have you ever known a generous person? I have.

My wife comes immediately to mind. She is one of the most kind-hearted, generous people I’ve ever known. She doesn’t simply respond generously when she is asked. She proactively sees what people need and is already there when they arrive.

My mom and dad were generous, each in their own way. I have seen my dad repair a piece of equipment for a farmer, and then not charge them enough to cover the cost of the welding rod he used. When I asked him why, he said, “That man only has a few tillable acres. I couldn’t, in good conscience, charge him more.”

My mom was generous with her material things, even though she had very little. But just as importantly, she was generous with her time, with her listening, with her fun-loving nature, with her encouragement.

Oh, I’ve known so many people like this over the years: parishioners, when I was a pastor, fellow recovering addicts. The list goes on and on.

But here is my question to myself and to you: Am I—are we—going to be generous today? Psalm 112 is filled with praise to the God who is generous. It is also filled with challenge for us to be generous. Maybe we need to combine these things. As we praise our generous God, we may find ourselves empowered for increasing generosity ourselves.

Have a generous day!

“Confession: From the We to the I”

“Psa. 106:1      Praise the LORD!

             Oh give thanks to the LORD, for he is good,

                        for his steadfast love endures forever!

2          Who can utter the mighty deeds of the LORD,

                        or declare all his praise?

3          Blessed are they who observe justice,

                        who do righteousness at all times!

Psa. 106:4       Remember me, O LORD, when you show favor to your people;

                        help me when you save them,

5          that I may look upon the prosperity of your chosen ones,

                        that I may rejoice in the gladness of your nation,

                        that I may glory with your inheritance.

Psa. 106:6       Both we and our fathers have sinned;

                        we have committed iniquity; we have done wickedness.

7          Our fathers, when they were in Egypt,

                        did not consider your wondrous works;

             they did not remember the abundance of your steadfast love,

                        but rebelled by the sea, at the Red Sea.

8          Yet he saved them for his name’s sake,

                        that he might make known his mighty power.

9          He rebuked the Red Sea, and it became dry,

                        and he led them through the deep as through a desert.

10        So he saved them from the hand of the foe

                        and redeemed them from the power of the enemy.

11        And the waters covered their adversaries;

                        not one of them was left.

12        Then they believed his words;

                        they sang his praise.

Psa. 106:13     But they soon forgot his works;

                        they did not wait for his counsel.

14        But they had a wanton craving in the wilderness,

                        and put God to the test in the desert;

15        he gave them what they asked,

                        but sent a wasting disease among them.

Psa. 106:16     When men in the camp were jealous of Moses

                        and Aaron, the holy one of the LORD,

17        the earth opened and swallowed up Dathan,

                        and covered the company of Abiram.

18        Fire also broke out in their company;

                        the flame burned up the wicked.

Psa. 106:19     They made a calf in Horeb

                        and worshiped a metal image.

20        They exchanged the glory of God

                        for the image of an ox that eats grass.

21        They forgot God, their Savior,

                        who had done great things in Egypt,

22        wondrous works in the land of Ham,

                        and awesome deeds by the Red Sea.

23        Therefore he said he would destroy them—

                        had not Moses, his chosen one,

             stood in the breach before him,

                        to turn away his wrath from destroying them.

Psa. 106:24     Then they despised the pleasant land,

                        having no faith in his promise.

25        They murmured in their tents,

                        and did not obey the voice of the LORD.

26        Therefore he raised his hand and swore to them

                        that he would make them fall in the wilderness,

27        and would make their offspring fall among the nations,

                        scattering them among the lands.

Psa. 106:28     Then they yoked themselves to the Baal of Peor,

                        and ate sacrifices offered to the dead;

29        they provoked the LORD to anger with their deeds,

                        and a plague broke out among them.

30        Then Phinehas stood up and intervened,

                        and the plague was stayed.

31        And that was counted to him as righteousness

                        from generation to generation forever.

Psa. 106:32     They angered him at the waters of Meribah,

                        and it went ill with Moses on their account,

33        for they made his spirit bitter,

                        and he spoke rashly with his lips.

Psa. 106:34     They did not destroy the peoples,

                        as the LORD commanded them,

35        but they mixed with the nations

                        and learned to do as they did.

36        They served their idols,

                        which became a snare to them.

37        They sacrificed their sons

                        and their daughters to the demons;

38        they poured out innocent blood,

                        the blood of their sons and daughters,

             whom they sacrificed to the idols of Canaan,

                        and the land was polluted with blood.

39        Thus they became unclean by their acts,

                        and played the whore in their deeds.

Psa. 106:40     Then the anger of the LORD was kindled against his people,

                        and he abhorred his heritage;

41        he gave them into the hand of the nations,

                        so that those who hated them ruled over them.

42        Their enemies oppressed them,

                        and they were brought into subjection under their power.

43        Many times he delivered them,

                        but they were rebellious in their purposes

                        and were brought low through their iniquity.

Psa. 106:44     Nevertheless, he looked upon their distress,

                        when he heard their cry.

45        For their sake he remembered his covenant,

                        and relented according to the abundance of his steadfast love.

46        He caused them to be pitied

                        by all those who held them captive.

Psa. 106:47     Save us, O LORD our God,

                        and gather us from among the nations,

             that we may give thanks to your holy name

                        and glory in your praise.

Psa. 106:48     Blessed be the LORD, the God of Israel,

                        from everlasting to everlasting!

             And let all the people say, “Amen!”

                        Praise the LORD!”

(Psalm 106, English Standard Version. I’ve copied and pasted the whole psalm for context, but I’m only going to make some comments about something I just recently observed.)

“Every generation blames the one before . . . .” (Mike + the Mechanics, “The Living Years.”)

It is temptingly easy to blame the generation before us (or many generations before us) for all the present ills. You see this even in the Bible.

Psalm 106 starts out with thanks to God (vs. 1) and a reminder that only those who do what is right consistently can really proclaim God’s mighty acts (vss. 2-3). Then, the psalm moves to a plea for personal deliverance for the psalmist, as part of God’s deliverance of all God’s people (vss. 4-5).

Then, vs. 6 gets down to a bedrock problem: “. . . We have sinned . . . ; we have done wrong and acted wickedly.” Yep, that sounds about right for about any person or group at any time.

However, look carefully at vs. 6. I left out part of it, as shown by the three dots after the word “sinned.” The whole verse reads as follows (with italics for the portions I left out in the preceding paragraph):

Both we and our fathers have sinned;

we have committed iniquity; we have done wickedness.”

And then, the rest of this long psalm details the sins of the psalmist’s ancient ancestors!

Sometimes, psalms reflect how we ought to pray. At other times, psalms reflect how we do pray. I think that Psalm 106 reflects how we often do pray. We may nod at our own mess-ups, but we don’t stay with that for long. It is so much easier—and more fun—to blame our ancestors.

Right now, it is both tempting and easy to acknowledge our ancestors’ racism. It is also tempting and easy to confess the sins of police officers who use excessive force or other very questionable techniques, or who make assumptions about people of color. And, of course, we can always blame our leaders. There does need to be accountability for those who are leaders or who have power over others. Agreed.

But when we spend a lot of time blaming “the other people,” whether “those other people” are from other generations or “those other people” are from our own generation, we tend to let ourselves off the hook way too quickly. And when we do that, we fail to ask several key questions.

  • What forms of hidden (or not-so-hidden) racism do I practice?
  • What am I doing to inform myself about racism? What books and articles am I reading that could help me to understand better what is really going on? What podcasts? In what conversations do I need to be participating, primarily as a listener?
  • What can I try to do that might make a positive difference in improving race relations?
  • Am I doing what I can, even if it is pretty inadequate, and late, and lame? (I have to begin somewhere, somewhen.)

My middle name is “Lee.” As in Robert E. Lee. My southern parents gave me the name. My dad was a good man in many ways, but he was definitely a racist.

However, my dad died thirty years ago this fall. Time to take responsibility for my own racism. Changing my middle name won’t help. Letting God change my heart, attitudes, mind, and actions will.

“The Big Adventure of Little Things”

One of the things I do on an almost daily basis for my recovery and sanity is a series of brief (free!) readings from Hazelden Publishing. Hazelden is especially focused on recovery from addiction, but many of their writings simply help people to live sane and mostly happy lives. In other words, these readings are good for just about anyone. Here is a reading for today:

“Saturday, June 20

The most valuable thing we can do for the psyche, occasionally, is to let it rest, wander, live in the changing light of a room, not to try to do or be anything whatsoever.
  —May Sarton

A whole world can be seen through even the smallest window. Knowing this can help us slow down and enjoy everyday events. We can listen to the regular rhythms of letter carriers and school children, dogs and delivery trucks, city buses and song birds playing out a piece of their daily lives outside the window.

We can greet the letter carrier who comes up the walk, feed the robin who lands on the sill, wave to the kids who’ve found a shortcut through our backyards on their way home from school.

It is not necessary, today, for us to fill our lives with important meetings, gala parties, expensive treats, toys, or outings to be happy. There is a whole world to be discovered just outside the nearest window.

What worlds lie on the other side of my window today?” (From Today’s Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation.)

I think we all want to do, to have, and to experience big things. But maybe what we really need to do is to go small. Perhaps there is enough adventure in the small things for us to savor.

I am getting better at this. I used to be restless most of the time, waiting for some big thing to happen. Not so much anymore. I like looking out the window at the trees, laughing with my wife, enjoying a slow cup of coffee. I am learning that little things can be a huge delight.

One of my favorite verses is a little-known verse in a little-known book. “For whoever has despised the day of small things shall rejoice . . . .” (Zechariah 4:10, King James Version) The context of this verse is that the exiles from Judah had been allowed to return to Jerusalem. They were rebuilding the temple, with the encouragement of the prophets Haggai and Zechariah. But this temple would not be nearly as grand or big or ornate as the temple that Solomon had constructed. However, the prophets asked a question that was also a rebuke and a challenge: Are you despising the day of small things? Don’t!

Joyce Baldwin, in her excellent commentary on Zechariah for the Tyndale Old Testament Commentary Series notes, “Zechariah, like Haggai, implies that the ‘realists’ were pessimistic about the building project (Hag. 2:3), and so despised the day of small things. They wanted to see it succeed and were glad when it did, but their faith was too small. They would be surprised into rejoicing.”

Surprised into rejoicing! Yes!

“Will this Help Me or Harm Me?”

I listened to a TED Talk on resilience the other day. It was a lady who had done extensive research and teaching on resilience. Then, there came a horrible time in her life when she had to practice what she had been researching and teaching. Her twelve-year-old daughter was killed in a car accident.

You can listen to the entire TED Talk at https://www.ted.com/talks/lucy_hone_the_three_secrets_of_resilient_people, and it will do you a great deal of good. However, my main takeaway was the last of her three strategies for resilience: Ask yourself the question, “Will this thing I’m doing or am about to do help me or harm me?”

Simple question? Yes! But it strikes me as being very helpful. Before I have my second piece of apple pie (the first one was just a sliver, you understand), I need to ask the question. Before I google “corona virus news” for the third or thirtieth time today, I need to ask The Question. Before I make a cutting, sarcastic comment to my wife, I need to ask THE QUESTION. Before I decide to buy a motorcycle, I need to ask THE QUESTION.

The Bible talks a great deal about the “good and the evil.” Some scholars think that the Hebrew word, ṭôḇ, (that is often translated “good” in English) frequently suggests “that which is helpful or that works.” By the same token, the Hebrew word raʿ often means “that which is harmful or doesn’t work.”

So, I am going to go through this day, asking myself this profoundly simple question: Is this helping me or harming me?

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