Posts Tagged: The Bible

“Advice vs. Guidance”

Before I threw the covers off this morning, I prayed that God would guide me through and throughout this day. My 12-step affirmation for today is “Today, I am allowing my Higher Power to guide me to make good choices and to follow through on those choices.

Then, strangely enough, in one of my 12-step readings, I encountered a section entitled “Divinely Led.” It began with an epigraph, which is also a prayer:

“Send me the right thought, word, or action. Show me what my next step should be. In times of doubt and indecision please send your inspiration and guidance.

—Alcoholics Anonymous” (https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/thought-for-the-day?book=2&date=2021-02-11)

It is so much easier to give advice than guidance. An advisor points out the direction you should go. A guide goes with you.

According to both the Old and New Testaments, God is not an advisor. God is a guide. Of course, God is not just a guide. God is many things. But God isa guide.

I really appreciate that sometimes. I can get lost in my own close closet—and it isn’t even a walk-in closet. For sure, I can get lost in my own mind. As someone has said, “The mind is a dark and scary place. Don’t go there alone!”

My Guide often accompanies me to places I don’t want to go, but my Guide goes with me. And when I follow and arrive at this place I did not want to go, there is a delightful view or a needful lesson to be learned—sometimes a view and a lesson.

God guides me in many ways: through the Bible, for sure, but in other ways as well. Here is a very partial list of ways in which my Guide guides:

  • The Bible.
  • Other books and articles, both sacred and secular.
  • Music.
  • Friends.
  • 12-step readings.
  • Internal nudging from the Holy Spirit.
  • My dog.
  • My circumstances.
  • Trial and error.
  • My own internal longings. (Well, some of them.)

Who’s to say? Perhaps God even guides through blog posts like this one. May you be guided through this day!

“GOOD ENOUGH, SMART ENOUGH, AND LIKABLE ENOUGH”

“You are good enough, you are smart enough, and doggonit, people like you.” (Stuart Smalley)

The preceding affirmation is provided by my 12-step sponsor.  He encouraged me, several years ago, to begin daily affirmations as well as reports.  It is a wonderful discipline!  I tend to be a positive person . . . except about myself.  My pretty-much daily affirmations help me to set a good tone for my day, even (especially?) toward my own self.

I have struggled, since I was little, with believing—or rather, not believing—that I am good enough, smart enough, or likable enough.

The question, of course, is this: What does the word “enough” mean?

Now, I know what the dictionary meaning is for the word, but what about my own, personal dictionary?  What does “enough” mean to me?

A good friend of mine pointed out to me years ago that I don’t want to be a good man.  I want to be perfect.  I initially disagreed with him, but have finally come around to his way of thinking.  To be “good enough” means being perfect.  Of course, I’m not perfect, and therefore, I am not good enough!

What utter nonsense!  But there it is.

And knowing enough?  Same thing.  “Knowing enough” means knowing everything.  Since I don’t know everything, I obviously don’t know enough.

And about people liking me?  Of course many do, and some don’t.  But if only enough people liked me, then I would be likable enough.  And, of course, “enough people” means everyone.

So, I often tend to drag around, with a low-grade contempt for myself.

However, the Bible—both the Old and the New Testaments—often remind me that life isn’t about what I am, or what or who I think I am.  Rather, life is about who God is.  God is enough, and therefore, I am enough.

Tomorrow’s affirmation, which I plan to keep in focus even today, is this: By God’s grace, I am good enough, I am smart enough, and doggonit, people like me.

“ ‘A WRINKLE IN TIME’: MOVIES VERSUS BOOKS”

DTEB, “ ‘A WRINKLE IN TIME”: MOVIES VERSUS BOOKS”

My wife and I went to see “A Wrinkle in Time” on Saturday.  It was worth going to see, and I would recommend it to others.  However, I still like the book better.  I generally like books better than I do movies.  I wonder why?

I don’t think that it has anything to do with the fact that Oprah Winfrey had a minor part in it.  I actually like Oprah Winfrey—at least, some of the time.

Nor was it the fact that Meg (one of the main characters) was the daughter of interracial parents.  I was surprised by that, but not terribly put-off by it.  I think that my preference for the book “A Wrinkle in Time” (as well as my general love for books) stems from other reasons.

I think part of it may be that, with books, I can read at my own pace.  Movies drag me along at their own break-neck speed.  While reading a book, I can pause, or go back and read a sentence or a paragraph again.  I can ponder.  In the case of movies, there isn’t a lot of pondering time allowed.  You’ve no doubt noticed some of the announcements that they run just before the movie.  “TURN OFF YOUR ELECTRONIC DEVICES!”  That sort of thing.  Perhaps they should make an announcement “NO PONDERING ALLOWED!”

Then too, movies tell me and show me too much.  Good books suggest, but also leave room for imagination.  Movies suggest too much.  (It gives “suggestive movies” a whole new meaning, doesn’t it?)

As a particular aspect of books leaving more room for imagination, books let me identify with the various characters more than movies do.  In the case of movies, I am seeing characters.  In the case of books, I am being characters.

Of course, as a lover of the Bible, you would expect me to say that I like the Bible better than movies based on the Bible.  And you would be right!  The Bible (the book, not the movie) draws me into it, causes me to ponder, argue with it, fuss and fume.  The Bible gives me time to ponder . . . and ponder . . . and ponder some more.

 

“STRENGTHENING MYSELF IN THE LORD MY GOD”

1 Samuel 30:6 David was now in great danger because all his men were very bitter about losing their sons and daughters, and they began to talk of stoning him. But David found strength in the LORD his God.  (New Living Translation)

I wasn’t feeling particularly strong this morning physically, emotionally, or spiritually.  So, I thought of 1 Samuel 30:6.

A literal translation of that last sentence would be “And David strengthened himself in the LORD his God.”  It was something he did to himself.  (For Hebrew students, the verb translated “strengthened” of “found strength” is a hithpa`el.)

We are told in 1 Samuel some of the things that had taken place up to this point.  David had been on the run from King Saul for years.  He had finally taken refuge with the Philistines, but they did not altogether trust him.  He had offered to go to war on the side of his Philistine host.  We are not told whether the offer was sincere or not.  As is often the case, David’s motives are opaque.

David was sent back to the town he and his marauders had been given by the Philistines, Ziklag.  However, as they drew near, all they saw was a pile of burned rubble.  The Amalekites had raided Ziklag, and taken all the possessions and family members of David and his men.  David’s men seem to have been very loyal to him generally, but loyalty has its limits.  They were so devastated that “they began to talk of stoning” David.

But then, we are told that “David strengthened himself in the LORD his God.”  We are not told how he did that, just that he did it.

How do you strengthen yourself in the LORD?  I don’t really know, but I do have some suspicions.  Here is what works for me.

  1. I strengthen myself by reading and meditating on the Scriptures.  I am committed to reading the entire Bible through twice this year.  Sometimes, the Word of God encourages me, sometimes it brings me up short, sometimes it just puzzles me, but it always strengthens me.
  2. I strengthen myself by other readings.  I am rereading The Narnia Chronicles, for example.  I also find Martin Buber’s Tales of the Hasidim to be a continual source of strength.  The Jesuits have a very helpful (and free!) “Three-Minute Retreat,” which you can sign up for through Loyola Press.
  3. My twelve-step meetings and brothers and sisters are extremely strengthening.
  4. I like Christian music.  I like old hymns and modern Christian music, monastic chants and Promise Keepers’ favorites, instrumental and vocal music.  I find that listening to such music makes me stronger.
  5. I remember what God has done in the past for others and for me.  I am strengthened by these memories to believe that God will take care of my present struggles.
  6. I try to be of service to others.  It may seem counterintuitive, but when I serve others, I find that my strength is not depleted, but rather that my strength is strengthened.
  7. Gratitude is also a wonderfully strengthening activity.
  8. Prayer can help a great deal.  Prayer isn’t primarily about getting answers, at least it isn’t for me.  Prayer is about acknowledging the reality of me and the Reality of God.  When I am in touch with my reality and with the Reality of God, I find myself strengthened.
  9. The final way I strengthen myself in the LORD is to remember that weakness is not the problem.  Indeed, weakness is a wonderful opportunity for God to work in my life.   The Apostle Paul writes in NLT  2 Corinthians 12 about a thorn in the flesh that he had.  He doesn’t tell us precisely what that thorn was, but he does tell us that he earnestly prayed to God that it would be taken away.  Thorns in the flesh are no fun!

How did God answer Paul’s prayer?  “Each time he said, ‘My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.’ So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.”

Weakness, when acknowledged and submitted to God, is the strongest form of strength.

 

 

 

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