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“OF LITTLE DOGS AND BIG PRIORITIES”

I was getting ready very early this morning, preparing to go and teach at the university where I adjunct.  I must have rattled around too much.  My wife got up.

So did our little dog, who sleeps with my wife most nights. My lovely lady got up for a little while, and our dog got up too—very reluctantly.  I took the dog outside to do her business.  She got right down to business, and was ready to go back in, and go back to bed.

My wife was in the kitchen finishing packing for me.  Our dog ran full-tilt right by my wife and jumped in the bed.

My wife said, “It’s a good thing I left my door open.  Otherwise, she would have run right into it!”

True enough!

I said, “I was going to give her a little treat for taking care of business right away.”  I paused, waiting to hear our little one’s galloping paws.

Nothing.

I said it again, a little bit louder this time. “I was going to give her a treat.

A pause.  Still nothing.

I was going to give her a TREAT.

Finally, we heard the thump of our dog jumping off the bed.  She ran into the kitchen, got her treat, and ran full-tilt with it in her mouth back to my wife’s bed.

My wife and I looked at one another and laughed.  Our dog was not going to be denied her “momma time!”

I like the things that God gives to me.  Food, drinkable water, a house, work that I love to do—all these and 10,000 other blessings per day.  These are all wonderful.  They go way beyond treats.

But the main thing is to spend time with God.  His Presence is the thing, the thing that is beyond any gift that he gives me.

I am not going to be denied my “Heavenly Father time!”

“PUTTING FIRST THINGS FIRST THIRD”

I crafted a 12-step affirmation that I thought was pretty well-worded.  Whether it really is or not, only eternity will tell.  And even if it was well-worded, the crucial matter is whether I actually live out my affirmation.

In any case, here is the affirmation:

Today, by God’s grace and with God’s help, I am a kind and diligent person who puts loving God first, loving people second, and putting first things first, third.

Putting first things first assumes that life is made up of things: objects and activities.  But what if life is made up of people—a God who is a person and people who are . . . well, . . . people?  Perhaps all “things”, all objects and activities, are related to God and other people, either for good or for ill.  And, of course, I need to remember what Radar O’Reiley said: “Hey!  Animals are people too, ya know!”

Jesus reduced all the commandments to two.  Neither of them is primarily related to things.  Jesus was asked what the greatest commandment was, but he answered with two commandments: Love God (Deut. 6:5; Matt. 22:37; Mk. 12:30; Lk. 10:27), and love your neighbor (Lev. 19:18; Matt. 22:39; Mk. 12:31; Lk. 10:27).

So, where does putting first things first come in?  Perhaps it doesn’t!  There are really only two “things” that ought to come first—loving God and loving others.

In a sense, putting first things first is a good time management technique, but it should not be mistaken for my priorities.  My priorities are (or at least should be) God and people.  Only when those are my priorities can I fruitfully seek to put first things first.

To say it another way, a good question to ask myself throughout the day is this: Am I putting loving God and loving people first?  If I am doing that, I am indeed putting first (non)things first.  And at that point, everyone and everything receives his/her/its proper due.

“OF NIGHTMARES, PRIORITIES, AND SELF-WORTH”

Tuesday, July 4, 2017

I have had two dreams on successive nights, which seem to have the same theme: me trying to do too much.

On Sunday night, I dreamt that I was working at Bob Evans.  We were pretty busy.  I had three or four booths/tables that I hadn’t even acknowledged.  A fellow-server wanted to go to her apartment to pick something up she needed.  “My apartment is nearby,” she said.  So, I acknowledged my tables and told them I would be with them as soon as possible.

However, the young lady’s apartment seemed to be pretty far away, and I began wondering why on earth I had agreed to go.  What was I thinking!  Customers would get mad and leave.  I would be fired.  WHAT WAS I THINKING!!

Finally, I said to myself, “This is a dream within a dream, and I’m waking up!”

And I did.

Last night, I dreamed that I was at a restaurant (Frisch’s in Bellevue??) having breakfast after our twelve-step meeting.  We had ordered, but I left to take care of something, which of course took longer than I had thought it would take.  When I finally got back, my food was cold, and some of the guys were getting up to leave.

So much for dreams!  It occurred to me today that these dreams might mean something important.

Since I was little, I’ve been trying to pack too much into my available time.  I remember playing, knowing that I had to go to the bathroom.  I would keep on playing until . . . well, let’s just say that I didn’t always make it to the outhouse.  This was not when I was two or even three.  This was when I was five, and maybe older.

I don’t (usually) struggle with putting off going to the necessary room any more.  This is good!  However, I do tend to try to pack too much into life.  Why do I do this?  More importantly, how can I stop doing this?

God, I am asking You these questions.  I figure you are more likely to know the answers than I am.

And here is what I think God might be saying to me:

“Child, you are afraid you are going to miss something.  And, of course, you are!  How could it be otherwise?  Be content to miss some things!

“Also, you are confused about the source of your worth.  You think that the more you do, the more you are.  This is simply not true.  Your source of worth is Me: my creation of you and my redemption of you.

“As to how you stop behaving in this manner, there are two things you can do.  First, you can ask me what my priorities are for you.  Second, you can ask me to keep you on track throughout the day and throughout your days.”

POSTSCRIPT:

I called work to verify that I was scheduled to go in to Bob Evans at 4:30.  However, the manager asked me if I could possibly come in at 2:00?  I said yes.  About fifteen minutes later, it occurred to me that I didn’t ask God first.

This is going to be harder than I thought!

“My To-Do Lists and God’s Priorities”

 Sometimes, I confuse my to-do list with what should be my priorities.

Take this morning, for example.  My affirmation to my sponsor (as well as to myself and God) was as follows:

“Today, by God’s grace, I will spread mulch, do some (hopefully) creative writing, and work at Bob Evans.  I will do these things because they are fun to do, because they need doing, because they may benefit other people, and because they will glorify God when they are done in the right way with the right attitude.” (Down to Earth Believer, affirmation sent to 12-step sponsor.”)

But then, I turned to a daily retreat sponsored by the Jesuits and Loyola Press, and read the following reflections on 1 Corinthians 13:13, which says “So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”

This scripture passage offers us a chance to reflect on our priorities. It tells us that, at the end of the day, it won’t be the school we graduated from, our annual income, or our zip code that matters. Rather, we will be judged by our fidelity to God, our hope in Christ and the power of his Resurrection, and the love that we show ourselves and our neighbor. It’s as simple as that.  (Excerpt from the “3-Minute Retreat” for today, April 27, 2017, http://www.loyolapress.com/retreats/love-lasts-forever-start-retreat.)

This invited me to do a little probing of my to-do list.  Here is the question: Do my priorities match up with and reflect God’s priorities for all believers?  In other words, am I going to choose to spread mulch in a loving, hopeful, faith-filled way?

This is one of those questions that I can’t always answer, and don’t want to answer.  I don’t always like other people’s answers to my questions.  I often flat-out detest my own answers.

My answer will not come in the form of this post.  It will not come primarily in terms of my feelings or thoughts.  My answer will come as I put each shovelful of mulch in the wheel barrow and spread it around our flower beds.

Ultimately, only God can decide how lovingly, how hopefully, how faithfully I mulched the flower beds.  But I can at least live with the question.

Postscript: I wrote this blog yesterday, so that I could post it early this morning.  I got the mulching pretty well done.  I’m going to the chiropractor this morning.

First Things Second

No doubt you have heard—and probably said—“First things first!”

But it’s terribly easy to get off the path we know we ought to be traveling.  Suddenly, first things can become second.

Consider, for example, the story of Solomon and his building projects.  I was reading this account just this morning during my devotional time.  I was stopped in my tracks by the very first verse I read.

“It took Solomon thirteen years, however, to complete the construction of his palace.”  (1 Kings 7:1, NIV )

“Where on earth did the translators get the word “however” in this text?” I asked myself.

I wouldn’t say that I know Hebrew super-well, but I do know that verses are usually strung together with a simple waw.  This Hebrew conjunction can often be translated “and,” but translators do often need to try another word to translate this Hebrew word.

Sure enough, it was a waw at the beginning of this word.  So, how on earth did the translators decide on “however”?  I decided to have a closer look.  I’m glad that I did!

The translators were apparently going on word order.  Hebrew word order is flexible, but generally, Hebrew prefers a verb-subject-object order.  “Dog bites man,” is the English/American word order.  The “normal” word order in Hebrew is “Bites dog man.”  If you put the object of the verb (“man” in this simple example) first, it is usually done in order to emphasize the object.

The Hebrew word order in 1 Kings 7:1 may be translated literally as follows: “His (i.e., Solomon’s) house built Solomon.”

In other words, it is emphasized that Solomon’s own palace took thirteen years to complete, whereas the Temple of the LORD had taken only 7 years to build—a fact that had just been mentioned in the preceding verse.

Of course, this does not necessarily mean that his own palace was more important than the Temple.  Perhaps Solomon had even more workmen building the Temple than he had working on his palace.  Perhaps.  Perhaps.

However, two things make me wonder.  The first is that Solomon’s palace was much larger than the Temple.  Why?  To accommodate all the offices and officials who would serve Solomon?  To accommodate Solomon’s wives?  Or there is another possibility: Did Solomon want his house, the palace, to be the biggest, most impressive building in Jerusalem?

A second thing makes me wonder.  Why is it that the narratives about the furnishings of the Temple and the dedication of the Temple come only after the report of Solomon building his palace?  Admittedly, Hebrew writers did not always proceed chronologically, but this literary positioning is intriguing.  Might it suggest that the building of the Temple was interrupted so that Solomon could build his own palace?

Well, all of this is interesting, but by no means without doubt.  But there is another thing that is surely beyond doubt: Sometimes we all get our priorities out of order.  We major on minors, and minor on majors.  I had a friend who said years ago, “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.”  True that!

If God comes first, everything else will fall into its proper place—or it will fall out entirely, if it needs to.  I frequently willfully forget this.

Right now, I teach as an adjunct at a Christian institution, I teach a Hebrew class, I wait tables at two different restaurants, I try to be active in my church, attempt to be a good househusband,  I blog, and am trying to find time to write a book.

Too often, I don’t ask myself a crucial question: What would most honor God right now?  I don’t ask the question, in part, because I don’t want to hear the answer.

If God were writing the story of my life (and maybe He is), would he chronicle what I had done to honor Him?  But would God have to insert a “however,” indicating that I had been primarily interested in building my own palace?

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