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“Good Friday and Refraining from Criticism”

My wife pointed out something tremendously helpful about me the other day: I often criticize her driving. As a result, she doesn’t like to drive when I’m with her.

Ouch!

I didn’t think that I was that critical, but maybe I should just stop after the word “think”. I didn’t think . . .  and that is why I was so critical. If I had thought, I would have refrained from criticism.

So, yesterday my 12-step affirmation was “Today by God’s grace, I am choosing to refrain from criticizing anyone, including myself.” You may find it hard to believe, but two wonderful things happened.

First, I actually lived out this affirmation. And that is both wonderful and unusual. My affirmations often tend to be more aspirational than actional. But I acted on this one. Of course, both you and I need to remember the by God’s grace part of the affirmation.

Second, the results were wonderful. I was more focused and happier than I could have ever imagined. I think I’ll refrain from criticizing again today!

One of the basic confessions/affirmations of those of us who aspire to be Christ-followers is this: Jesus died on the cross for our sins and the sins of the whole world. Sins were not merely criticized at the cross. They were decisively dealt with there. My sins, your sins, everybody’s sins.

This same Jesus who died on the cross for the sins of the world said, “Don’t judge lest you be judged.”

What right do I have to judge anyone, in light of the cross? The question answers itself.

Have a Good Friday, dear ones! No criticism today; just gratitude.

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