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“The Art of Distracting Ourselves with Small White Stones”

“Let your eyes look directly forward,

            and your gaze be straight before you.

Ponder the path of your feet;

            then all your ways will be sure.

 Do not swerve to the right or to the left;

            turn your foot away from evil.” (Proverbs 4:25-27, English Standard Version)

A couple of friends of mine were out walking and talking with one another at a park when a very pretty young lady jogged by them. They are trying to be men of integrity, so they both quickly lowered their gaze to contemplate the paved asphalt path below them.

“Hey!” said one of them. “I never noticed that this asphalt has little white stones in it.”

“Me neither!” responded the other guy.

Distractions can be a bad thing, if they are keeping us from doing good things. However, distractions have their good side, too. Sometimes we can distract ourselves from doing things, saying things, or thinking things that we will very soon regret.

Many distractions are external and, therefore, out of our control. But we can also choose to distract ourselves. This doesn’t have to be a big production. In fact, the simpler the better. Years ago, I heard a man who was facing down a terrible addiction say the following: In the early days of his recovery, when the addiction came knocking at the door, this man would start flipping through food recipes in order to distract himself. It worked for him!

We have a saying in twelve-step programs, “Move a muscle, change a thought.” It really is true.

And sometimes, just by noticing what is around us, we are distracted in a holy, healthy way. There are times when a few white stones on the pathway are enough to keep us on The Path. What are your white stones?

“America the Beautiful and the Flawed”

“O beautiful for spacious skies,
For amber waves of grain,
For purple mountain majesties
Above the fruited plain!
America! America!
God shed His grace on thee
And crown thy good with brotherhood
From sea to shining sea!

O beautiful for pilgrim feet,
Whose stern, impassioned stress
A thoroughfare for freedom beat
Across the wilderness!
America! America!
God mend thine every flaw,
Confirm thy soul in self-control,
Thy liberty in law!

O beautiful for heroes proved
In liberating strife,
Who more than self their country loved
And mercy more than life!
America! America!
May God thy gold refine,
Till all success be nobleness,
And every gain divine!

O beautiful for patriot dream
That sees beyond the years
Thine alabaster cities gleam
Undimmed by human tears!
America! America!
God shed His grace on thee
And crown thy good with brotherhood
From sea to shining sea!”

A friend of mine wished me a happy Fourth of July this morning. Then he added, “I wish our national anthem was ‘America the Beautiful’!”

Me too! Katharine Lee Bates wrote the words to “America the Beautiful” when she was on a wagon and mule trip to the top of Pike’s Peak. She arrived near the summit very tired, but was filled with joy as she looked out across the plains of Eastern Colorado.

Bates was a social reformer. She loved America, but also saw that it had its faults that needed to be mended. And she also believed that only God could mend them.

“God shed His grace on thee
And crown thy good with brotherhood
From sea to shining sea!” (End of the first stanza and the fourth stanza)

“God mend thine every flaw,
Confirm thy soul in self-control,
Thy liberty in law!” (End of the second stanza)

“May God thy gold refine,
Till all success be nobleness,
And every gain divine!” (End of the third stanza)

I didn’t realize until quite recently that after addressing America twice, Bates prayed. I had always read the words “God shed his grace on thee” as a statement of fact. In fact, it wasn’t. It was a prayer that God would grant God’s grace. (This is shown be the fact that the next line of her poem doesn’t say that God had already crowned America’s good with brotherhood. Rather, Bates is praying that God would do that.)

And the rest of Bates’ poem continues that pattern. She speaks of great past deeds and even greater dreams for America’s future, but in each stanza she follows up past deeds and future dreams with a very bold prayer to God. I am especially struck by the prayer, at the end of the second stanza:

 “God mend thine every flaw,
Confirm thy soul in self-control,
Thy liberty in law!”

I am not a very self-controlled person myself, and I fear that, as a nation, we are all becoming less and less self-controlled. If you really want evidence, I have two words for you: the internet. It’s not just the pornography or the scams that show how uncontrolled we are. It is the hateful words that even good, supposedly Christian people vomit out on a daily basis that shows the level of our lack of self-control.

There seems to be a movement afoot in our nation to pretend that America is just fine—or would be if we just elected or reelected ___________________. (Fill in the blank with your favorite choice.) There is also a movement that tries to deny that America has any systemic racism or any other serious flaws. I don’t think Katharine Lee Bates would agree. I don’t either. I don’t believe in either bashing our country or putting America on a pedestal. My wife loves me dearly and I love her as well. However, neither of us ignores the other’s flaws. We love one another too much for that kind of nonsense. Contrary to the popular saying, love is not blind.

When will we begin praying for and living out the sort of America that Katharine Lee Bates saw and sang? How about starting on July 4, 2023?

“To Show is to Teach”

Psa. 51:1       Have mercy on me, O God,

                        according to your steadfast love;

             according to your abundant mercy

                        blot out my transgressions.

2           Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity,

                        and cleanse me from my sin!

Psa. 51:3         For I know my transgressions,

                        and my sin is ever before me.

4           Against you, you only, have I sinned

                        and done what is evil in your sight,

             so that you may be justified in your words

                        and blameless in your judgment.

5           Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity,

                        and in sin did my mother conceive me.

6           Behold, you delight in truth in the inward being,

                        and you teach me wisdom in the secret heart.

Psa. 51:7         Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean;

                        wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.

8           Let me hear joy and gladness;

                        let the bones that you have broken rejoice.

9           Hide your face from my sins,

                        and blot out all my iniquities.

10         Create in me a clean heart, O God,

                        and renew a right spirit within me.

11         Cast me not away from your presence,

                        and take not your Holy Spirit from me.

12         Restore to me the joy of your salvation,

                        and uphold me with a willing spirit.

Psa. 51:13       Then I will teach transgressors your ways,

                        and sinners will return to you.

14         Deliver me from bloodguiltiness, O God,

                        O God of my salvation,

                        and my tongue will sing aloud of your righteousness.

15         O Lord, open my lips,

                        and my mouth will declare your praise.

16         For you will not delight in sacrifice, or I would give it;

                        you will not be pleased with a burnt offering.

17         The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit;

                        a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.

Psa. 51:18       Do good to Zion in your good pleasure;

                        build up the walls of Jerusalem;

19         then will you delight in right sacrifices,

                        in burnt offerings and whole burnt offerings;

                        then bulls will be offered on your altar.” (English Standard Version)

I am trying to learn Spanish. This morning I encountered a different nuance to the word enseñar. I knew that the word meant “to teach”, but I was not sure what to do with it in the following nonsensical translation: “I am teaching them the offices.” However, I soon learned that enseñar can also mean “to show”.

“Oh, that makes sense,” I said to myself. “I am showing them the offices.”

Of course, there is no language that has one (and only one) meaning for every word. Some words may be used very broadly to mean many different things, and some words may be very specific in their usage, but no language has only one meaning for every single word. Nobody wants to speak or write or learn a language with a gazillion words to the nth power.

But then, my tangential attention went somewhere else. I thought, “Huh! To show and to teach! I wonder what happens if you put those two nuances together and encourage them to have a more or less civil conversation. Who knows? They might become friends.”

At that very moment a blinding flash of the obvious struck me: The truth is that the best way to teach is to show.

The Bible has much to say about this. For example, the Apostle Paul writes to Titus, a leader in the early church,

“Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity,

and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us.” (Titus 2:7-8, English Standard Version)

I think that the word order is significant here. First, show yourself to be a model who is doing the good works. Then you can teach others to do that.

Jesus’ words in Matthew 5:19 also come to mind. In a discussion of the Old Testament Law, Jesus says, “Therefore whoever relaxes one of the least of these commandments and teaches others to do the same will be called least in the kingdom of heaven, but whoever does them and teaches them will be called great in the kingdom of heaven.” (English Standard Version)

Notice that Jesus also puts doing before teaching. Keeping the commandments, according to Jesus, needs to accompany and precede teaching.

In a similar—yet very different way—in Psalm 51, we see this same dynamic relationship between showing-by-doing and teaching. David says, “Then I will teach transgressors your ways, and sinners will return to you.” (Psalm 51:13).

However, this pledge to teach sinners comes only after he has shown his terrible wickedness to God and to other worshipers in this psalm. Apparently, even not doing God’s will can make us good teachers. There is hope, even for those of us who (like me) have not always done things God’s way. But the teaching comes only after the confession.[1]

God wants us to teach others by showing them the way, not by telling them off. Our positive trust in God and obedience to God is our primary teaching tool. That is most pleasing to God and the best approach to teaching others. However, even our wrongs can be a means of showing others the right way, provided we don’t give up on ourselves or God’s forgiveness.

I was at Kroger yesterday, and asked one of the workers where I could find the fiber powder. “Aisle 39, bottom shelf,” she replied, pointing me in the right direction. I turned in the direction she had pointed, and immediately realized that the aisle numbers started at 31 and got smaller. However, my guide did not abandon me. She realized the error of her ways and found me right away. “I am sorry. I am so confused!” And then she took me took the right aisle and pointed at the fiber powder. (Yes, it really was on the bottom shelf!) I was impressed with both the young lady’s knowledge and her humble admission of her mistake. I was even more impressed with her when she pointed at the fiber powder. If she hadn’t, I might have come home with talcum powder.

God is powerful enough to use our good showings and our bad showings to lead others to God and to a better way of living. I am searching for one word in English/American that conveys this concept. I can’t think of one. However, perhaps I can boil it down to four words: humble obedience and honesty.


[1] Of course, God already knew precisely about David’s evil deeds, but I’m not sure David really knew how deadly serious things were until God confronted him and David confessed his wrongdoing. Sometimes, we don’t know how bad things are until we confess how bad things are.

“On Childproof Seals and Persistence”

The Parable of the Persistent Widow

Luke 18:1   And he told them a parable to the effect that they ought always to pray and not lose heart. 2 He said, “In a certain city there was a judge who neither feared God nor respected man. 3 And there was a widow in that city who kept coming to him and saying, ‘Give me justice against my adversary.’ 4 For a while he refused, but afterward he said to himself, ‘Though I neither fear God nor respect man, 5 yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will give her justice, so that she will not beat me down by her continual coming.’” 6 And the Lord said, “Hear what the unrighteous judge says. 7 And will not God give justice to his elect, who cry to him day and night? Will he delay long over them? 8 I tell you, he will give justice to them speedily. Nevertheless, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on earth?” (Luke 18:1-8, English Standard Version)

I don’t know if “child-proof” packaging frustrates children, but it most definitely proves frustrating to this old guy. You see, not to get too graphic, I have some chronic digestive issues which makes it desirable for me to take over-the-counter meds. And these meds come in childproof individually wrapped packages. They have a tab, but I’ve tried various ways of using those tabs, and nothing seems to work. Even my wife has difficulty with them and has to resort to scissors to cut them open.

However, being the stubborn individual that I am, I decided to try to find a way to open it when I did not have scissors with me. My determination paid off. I discovered that if I ran my thumbnail along the pill packages where they were scored, and if I kept on doing that for long enough, I could liberate my antidiarrheal pills. Persistence pays off!

Anytime that you’re doing something that needs to be done, persistence also pays off. However, with very few exceptions, I am not known for patience or persistence. I expect to do things perfectly (or at least well) right now, effortlessly. My middle name is not Persistence.

Jesus told a story about a widow whose first name was “Persistent”. She kept going to the same corrupt judge over and over and over, seeking justice. She eventually got her justice, not because the judge was just, but because she was just a pain in various parts of the judge’s anatomy.

Jesus explains that God is not corrupt like the judge. God will take care of his people’s needs speedily. And yet, it seems to me that Jesus indicates that there is the need for persistent faith and prayer in God’s children. It seems so to me because Jesus explicitly says that this is so.

But if God is going to speedily intervene on behalf of God’s children, why there is the need for persistent faith and prayer? I don’t know. Jesus often juxtaposes two things, that in our way of thinking, don’t make sense together. Jesus, like Mary Poppins, never explains anything. But while I don’t know, I do have a couple of suspicions.

First, I suspect that God’s speedily isn’t our speedily. We are creatures of the moment. God is the Creator of all moments, and God lives in eternality. So, while we wait for God’s speed, we need to persistently pray and trust.

Second, I suspect that we wouldn’t even realize that it was actually God intervening if we did not persistently pray and trust. This suspicion is based on my own experience and the experience of others who have reported the same. Without persistent trust and prayer, we would ascribe the meeting of our needs to anything but God. We would fall into the delusion that it was luck, or hard work, or—worst of all—the result of our own goodness.

Now, I would really stop here, but in the interest of full disclosure, I have a confession. It is this: Here of late I haven’t been persistent in prayer, trust, or much of anything that is good. I haven’t murdered anybody or robbed a bank this past week, but I haven’t been persistent or consistent in Bible reading, prayer, praise, gratitude, service, or even making my bed and taking regular showers. Sorry to be so blunt, but I’ve just been kind of a mess. Not a total mess, but a mess nevertheless.

So, one of the things that I am going to be persistent about is writing and posting on this website every day this week. Hold me to that, dear reader!

Oh, I almost forgot! I’m also shaving and taking a shower every day.

“Introspection Addiction”

My wife recently accused me of being too introspective. My immediate response was, “You may be right. Let me think about that more deeply.” Of course, I was joking. I was also serious.

Looking into our own mental, spiritual, and emotional internal goings-on can be a good thing. I suspect that most of us are very outwardly focused. Families, jobs, hobbies, Facebook, tv—the list goes on, but I will not. Perhaps a famine of introspection is problem for many people.

However, my wife is right. I am prone to the opposite problem. I fear that I am addicted to introspection. I am tempted to start a new twelve-step group called “I.A.—Introspectors Anonymous”!

You may say, “Well, what’s wrong with self-examination?” The answer is nothing at all. But anything that is excessive becomes a problem. Actually, excess gives birth to manyproblems.

For one thing, my introspection addiction sometimes keeps me from enjoying life. There is always something to find fault with (or at least to be unsure about) when I look within too much. While there is much in me that does need to be changed, excessive self-scrutiny simply sabotages my joy. Is misery really a good way to change for the better? I doubt it.

Then too, if I’m forever looking inward, I will almost certainly miss some upward and outward realities. Upward, there is God to be loved. Outward, there are people to be loved and a planet to be cared for. In fact, caring for the planet is one aspect of loving people. If we don’t care for our world, people suffer.

We all need a certain amount of introspection. Some folks probably need more than others. But if I’m forever examining myself, my thoughts, my feelings, I become a very small person. As someone has said, “A person all wrapped up in himself makes a very small package.”

“A Very Human Chipmunk”

I met a very human chipmunk yesterday. It was caught in some netting that we had put around our raspberries to protect the fruit against birds—and other little opportunists such as the aforementioned chipmunk.

Sharon noticed the chipmunk. I did not. I was already running late for my softball game and did not feel obliged to be in the rescue business. Sharon didn’t want the rodent to die slowly, but I had a solution: I regret to inform you that I proposed bashing the little critter’s head in and putting him/her out of his/her misery (and ours) quickly.

However, my wife’s tender heart melted my own heart. Being the occasionally dutiful husband that I am, I got out some clippers and began to cut the netting. Of course, the chipmunk thought of me as a predator and started frantically trying to escape. This had a predictable effect: The more the chipmunk squirmed, the more enmeshed he became.

But finally, I cut the netting enough to let the little varmint run away. And what he did he do with his newfound freedom? He ran straight into the netting again. By now, I was committed. I cut the netting—again. Again, he ran into the netting, but this time, he wiggled free and dashed under the wooden privacy fence and into our neighbor’s yard.

I don’t really know God very well, but a persistent rumor has it that God is in the rescue business with humans. We get ourselves into trouble again and again, and can’t get ourselves out. We sell our souls for less important things than raspberries. We squirm and struggle and can’t seem to get free. In fact, we get more and more tangled up.

But there is Jesus, who said, “If the son sets you free, you are really free.” (John 10:10) God notices our fatal predicament and does something radically crazy. He sends his son to get us out of the mess that we had gotten ourselves into.

That is wonderful, good news. However, I need to ask myself what I am to do with my freedom. There’s got to be a better choice than using my freedom to run into the same net again.

How about loving God who freed me, and loving people who are either caught in the net or who have been given their freedom too?

Let’s live free today! Also, let’s be on the lookout for our fellow chipmunks who are caught in a net and see if we can be of service to them.

“Questioning Our Dreams”

“So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (1 Corinthians 10:31)

A friend of mine is trying to discern what to do with the rest of his life vocationally. He is young and smart, hard-working and good with people. He is working now and is good at his job. Nevertheless, it is not what he wants to do with the rest of his life.

He mentioned a conversation with someone in which the other person spoke of something “not being his dream job.” My friend mentioned this to me in an email. This set me thinking, as most things do. Here is my reply to him.

“Dear________,

I am not sure there is any such thing as “a dream job”. In my opinion, we set ourselves up for disappointment and disillusionment when we think in those terms. I think that this is true in every area of life. For example, my wife and I have a good marriage. A dream marriage? An emphatic NO!  In fact, a rather brutal riddle comes to mind:

Q: What do you call someone who wants a dream marriage, or thinks they have one?

A: A single or divorced person.

I wonder if it might be helpful for you (or anybody) to ask certain questions about any job. Here are some possible questions for your consideration:

  1. Does this job have a good shot at benefiting others?
  2. Does the doing of this work give me a feeling of satisfaction a good deal of the time?
  3. Does this line of work give me the prospect of personal growth?
  4. Can I make enough money doing this to keep my body and soul alive?

No doubt, other good questions will come to your mind.”

In fact, one very important question came to me after I emailed my friend.

  • Would this line of work bring a smile to the face of God?

For those of us who believe in God, this question should probably be the first one we ask. The fact that I did not think of this when I was responding to my friend does not speak well for my present spiritual state.

The truth is that there are no dream jobs, except in our dreams. We do need to pay attention to our dreams, but we also need to continually question our dreams.

“The Fine Art of Correcting Someone”

DTEB, “The Fine Art of Correcting Someone”

“Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.” ( Galatians 6:1, English Standard Version)

Receiving correction from someone gracefully is never easy. Correcting someone else who needs to grow is never easy either. Giving good correction requires thought, practice, and the right mindset. Correcting someone else is an art. Indeed, it is a fine art.

A friend of mine is a supervisor. His boss wanted him to speak to some of his coworkers about some ways they could improve. My friend asked me if I had any tips. Here is what I wrote:

“When you need to give some difficult feedback to others, four things may help you. At least, they have helped me when I have actually done them.

  1. Expect some resistance and defensiveness. You won’t always get it, thank God! However, that is a normal reaction when someone is hearing that they need to change.
  2. Assume that the other person really wants to be better and to do better. That is not always a correct assumption, but it is always the correct assumption to make. In fact, it might be good to preface your remarks with some comment such as “I know you want to do the best job you can . . .” and so on.
  3. Rehearse what you’re going to say beforehand. Ask yourself if you yourself would want someone to speak with you in this way?
  4. Leave the results in God’s hands.

I think you just helped me write today’s blog post!”

Paul reminded some folks in Galatia (part of what is now the country of Turkey) that they might need to correct someone, but they needed to do so in the right way. The goal is to “restore” or “mend” the person, not to harm them or prove that we are more “spiritual” than the other person is (whatever being “spiritual” might mean).

So, just for today, if you really do need to correct someone, keep these four suggestions in mind. Let me know if they work. Maybe I will use them more often myself.

“The Privilege of Serving”

Our trip to England has been wonderful. We’ve seen so many stunningly beautiful things—ruined castles and abbeys, flowers everywhere. And we’ve enjoyed so much visiting with friends and chatting with random people we’ve met. I plan to enjoy our last few days here as well.

However, I am feeling out of whack. Why? I asked God and myself that very question this morning. The answer was profoundly simple: I am trying to enjoy myself rather than looking for opportunities to serve others. The privilege of serving is where the deepest joy is found.

So, today I am going to be on the lookout for chances to serve others. It doesn’t have to be anything profound. In fact, the simpler and smaller the better.

Also, when all is done and said, serving others enhances all other joys. It doesn’t matter whether you’re in England, or scrubbing your bathroom floor.

“Identifying Love”

1-2 So if you’re serious about living this new resurrection life with Christ, act like it. Pursue the things over which Christ presides. Don’t shuffle along, eyes to the ground, absorbed with the things right in front of you. Look up, and be alert to what is going on around Christ—that’s where the action is. See things from his perspective.

3-4 Your old life is dead. Your new life, which is your real life—even though invisible to spectators—is with Christ in God. He is your life. When Christ (your real life, remember) shows up again on this earth, you’ll show up, too—the real you, the glorious you. Meanwhile, be content with obscurity, like Christ.” (Colossians 3:1-4, The Message)

Love always identifies with whatever or whoever is the beloved. Do you love stuff? Then you identify with stuff? Do you love validation from others? Then that love becomes a part of your identity.

This is especially evident with parents. We identify with our children. It may not be an altogether healthy identification, but there it is. And it is (at least in part) an example of love identifying with what or who is loved.

The Bible—both the Old and New Testaments—indicates many things that are hard to believe. I am not now talking about garden-variety miracles such as feeding multitudes with a few fish and loaves or raising the dead. No, I am talking about a really big miracle: God’s miraculous identification with us in our sinfulness.

There are many things in the Bible that I have a hard time swallowing. One that always chokes me and chokes me up is that God not only loves sinners but also identifies with them. Ancient Israel was a bunch of rebellious sinners, like the rest of the world. Neither Moses nor the prophets were impressed with Israel. God didn’t pretend that the Israelites were a box of chocolates either.

But even though God disciplined his rebellious children severely, God never quite gave up on them. Instead, God identified with them. Isaiah, who points out that Israel is in exile because of their rebellion against God, also speaks repeatedly about God’s identification with Israel. For example,

“In all their affliction he was afflicted,

                        and the angel of his presence saved them;

             in his love and in his pity he redeemed them;

                        he lifted them up and carried them all the days of old.” (Isaiah 63:9, English Standard Version)

God’s identification with the sinners God loves is more than hinted at in the Old Testament. In the New Testament, God’s identification with this whole messed-up species that calls itself homo sapiens (“knowing man”) becomes a laser-like focus in Jesus Christ. He hung around with sinners all the time and was criticized for it. The religious sinners were his most merciless critics. Of course, we always are, aren’t we!

At the cross, Identifying Love showed itself as Redeeming Love. The One who had hung out with sinners was now hung out to dry—or rather, hung out to die.

And die he did. But there is a persistent rumor that he did not stay dead for long. Yes, I know that is hard to believe, isn’t it?  But there are many of us who do believe it. On my better days, I do too. On my worse days, I don’t believe much of anything. Sorry, but that is true.

And, according to the Apostle Paul, when Jesus came out of the tomb we came out with Jesus. Identifying Love had so identified with us that we have already died, been buried, and been raised from the dead. It is not first and foremost about us identifying with Jesus. No, it is first and foremost about God’s identification with us in Christ.

So what do I do in the light of God’s identification with me and with the whole human race? There are many responses to such loving identification. One is simple gratitude. God, thank you, thank you, thank you, for identifying with me. Another response is to keep pursuing Christ. The verb in Colossians 3:1 that speaks of “seeking” or “pursuing” Christ is in the present tense. In the Greek language of New Testament times, the present tense suggests an ongoing, repetitive, life-style choice. We don’t “have” Christ in the way that we “have” objects that we can put in some drawer and dig out (if we can find him) when we need him. Christ is to be sought on an everyday and every-moment basis.

And there are the choices we make every day. Paul talks about those choices in the rest of the book of Colossians: such choices as telling the truth, being sexually pure, and forgiving others. A friend of mine pointed out that, on average, every person makes 35,000 choices every day.

The first choice of this and every day should be to dare to believe in the identifying love of God. That same daring choice should infuse the other 34,999 choices with meaning.

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